The point about praising actions is interesting. While the compliment might be well-intended, it might unintentionally make the kid seek approval and acknowledgment for whatever they do in the future. Such a tricky balance. (Father of one here.)
Haha definitely trying to avoid that. But we all respond differently to feedback. I can also see a scenario where the lack of approval and acknowledgement causes a child to seek them even more.
From The Daily Dad: “Attention and admiration were the things throughout all my childhood that u most wanted,” Eleanor [Roosevelt] later reflected, “because I was made to feel so conscious of the fact that nothing about me would affect attention or would bring me admiration!”
The point about praising actions is interesting. While the compliment might be well-intended, it might unintentionally make the kid seek approval and acknowledgment for whatever they do in the future. Such a tricky balance. (Father of one here.)
don't have a kid of my own yet, but i've always joked that not fucking up your kid is the ultimate "boss" every parent has to face
Haha definitely trying to avoid that. But we all respond differently to feedback. I can also see a scenario where the lack of approval and acknowledgement causes a child to seek them even more.
From The Daily Dad: “Attention and admiration were the things throughout all my childhood that u most wanted,” Eleanor [Roosevelt] later reflected, “because I was made to feel so conscious of the fact that nothing about me would affect attention or would bring me admiration!”
Tricky!
tricky indeed! all you can do it try your best, right?
Yep!
Nice one👌
thank you sven!